In the African tribe there is one other occasion upon which the villagers sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life,
the person commits a crime or aberrant social act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the people in the community
form a circle around them. Then they sing their song to them.
The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial behavior is not punishment... it is love and the remembrance of
identity. When you recognize your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt another.
A friend is someone who knows your song and sings it to you when you have forgotten it. Those who love you
are not fooled by mistakes you have made or dark images you hold about yourself. They remember your beauty when you feel
ugly, your wholeness when you are broken, your innocence when you feel guilty, and your purpose when you are confused.
You may not have grown up in an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life transitions, but
life is always reminding you when you are in tune with yourself and when you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing
matches your song, and when you feel awful, it doesn't.
IN THE END, we shall all recognize our song and sing it well. You may feel a little "out
of tune" at the moment, but so have all the great singers. Just keep singing and you'll find your way home...
— Author, Alan Cohen